Thursday, July 31, 2008

Wedding Count Down

We are now just over 2 weeks to the wedding of the year. I think we finally have a handle on things as I have told my daughter to stop trying so hard and not try to turn it into Cirque du Soleil. She is afraid that people will be bored and want to leave. My future son in law said this is his fault as he doesn't like to hang out at weddings once the cake is cut.

It should be a good party. We have great food, good music and lots of drink. I made sure I have lots of my friends and my family there as my ex in-laws can make my life hell and I need people around me that like me.

We have focused so much on the setting up and taking down of the wedding that we haven't given thought to us actually enjoying it. I'm sure once we start things will be great.

I'm now making lists. I do this for all my activities. I make a list of each stage of the wedding and I make a list for each section of the ceremony and reception. I will break these down into what needs to be done and what do we need to have. Once this is done, I will assign duties to everyone from set up to take down. I'm sure it won't be without mishaps but life is full of them and we all seem to keep functioning.

It's going to be a great party, I really can't wait. I love Brianne and Marcus!

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Mean Girls

Why is it so easy to believe the worst about people? I try not to assume that everything I hear is the truth. Most of the time it is just part of the truth, an edited edition of the truth, or an elaborated version. So often someone tells me what someone else said only to find that its more of what the listener thought they meant not necessarily what they said. If someone says they take an antidepressant, it doesn't mean that they are dysfunctional, suicidal or crazy. It seems to me that this person is doing the right thing by taking care of themselves. Whereas how many times have you heard, "they should be on drugs" when some one is not functioning okay.

My daughter takes antidepressants and I am proud of her for taking control of her life. She is herself only better because she wasn't afraid to find a solution to add quality to her life.

I try not to hate people. I dislike a few but mostly I figure that everyone I know has something good going for them. We all have our quirks and I'm sure that mine are subject to discussion on more occasions than I like to think about. My friends have major quirks but that's what makes them unique and why I like being with them.

I'm very fortunate to have friends, good friends. I'm not sure I deserve them as I'm not always the best person I could be. I speak without thinking and can be critical instead of understanding. I also try to pat things down and smooth things over so everyone will get along. I turn the other cheek so often that I get kicked in the ass.

We need to trust others. We need to look for the good and expect it. We need to think before we act or speak and consider what could happen when we do.

Monday, July 28, 2008

Wedding Jitters

It's less than 3 weeks to Brianne's wedding. I think I have found a beverage server. We still need to do a ton of things. I'm sewing up a storm to get the bride's maids outfitted. Brianne still needs to trim out some costs as she needs to know she can't have everything. I'm ending up hosting the bridal shower, there just isn't any other place. The guest list is at 32 and Brianne thinks we should invite more. Not going to happen.

Million things to do.....

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Kelly's Cat

Kelly's cat got sick while we were all at Girl Scout Daycamp. Kelly is a Girl Scout leader that I've known for about 6-7 years now. She took him to the vet and found out he had eaten wire from a craft project she did at her home for Girl Scouts. Surgery was needed to save his life. I just got an email, well, all the Girl Scouts in town got this email, that the surgery went find and the vet was astounded on how much stuff was in this cat's gut and how fortunate it blocked things up and he didn't further injest the wire. Kelly listed all the things in his tummy "On top of two pieces of wire she had a hair pony, string from the friendship bracelets, thread from the hiking bags, fleece from the cat toys that Chris had sold at the last leader meeting, 3 pieces of that and a lots and lots of grass. " Now I'm feeling really guilty as she named me and my troop's toy as one of the causes of her cat getting sick. I'm not sure what I'm suppose to do with that information. Does this make me accountable for the vet bills? She goes on to say, "A little to much he said and that was part of the other problem that cats can not digest grass and she was eating a lot of it to make her self throw up and it did not work. But that was also what probably saved her because the wire was not able to pass out of her stomach because of the blockage and it would have caused a lot of other problems." Or maybe she means me to know that my fleece actually saved the cat's life. I just don't know.

My cat Charlie ate thread when he was 5 months old. Rob, the kids and I were in Norway when my older daughter calls to let us know that Charlie is in the hospital and they believe he ate string. We were home the next day, so off we take Charlie to the surgeon. He has injested thread that had looped over his tongue and was cutting into the underside and strangling him. They had to make a total of 6 incisions in his stomach and intestons to get the long long length of thread out and they pulled out some curling ribbon. This was 4 1/2 years and $2000 ago. He is doing fine, a little thin but you would be too if you had had gastric bypass surgery. That was a bad year for us and cats. We had vet bills that totalled over $3000 and we buried one kitty a few days before Christmas.

But back to Kelly's cat. I'm sure that the vet bills will be huge but I can't take responsibility on what her cat eats, right?

Friday, July 25, 2008

Wedding Bells are Coming

Time has slipped away since my b-day. Brianne and I have been working hard at putting together what will be the wedding of the century, or at least that is how long it will take for Rob and me to pay it off.

This event is on August 17th so we have very little time left and are now trying to pull all the loose ends together. I am not going to go into the cost, except to say that a small country could run for a year on what it is costing. It will be wonderful though. Brianne has fantastic taste and has gathered together people who she feels confident will bring her dream together. Many of my friends are there to help. One Girl Scout leader is officiating. Another with her troop is being our setting, serving and cleanup crew. Another is working on finding us a reasonably priced bartender. I'm so blessed with such friends. The responses are pouring in and we are in for a big crowd. It really doesn't matter what the cost is, as it will be so great to share our joy with so many people.

Tomorrow, I will be sewing up a storm, creating beautiful bridesmaid's dresses. So much to do and so little time left!